Did you do anything special for Valentines day?
I really enjoy holidays. If I have an excuse to go all out and have some fun I am going to do it! Valentines day is no exception. My husband have in the past gone out for a nice dinner, in reality though that's usually pretty expensive. Not to mention places are PACKED for Valentines day. So instead we usually do something at home. In years past, with tighter budgets, I've made my husband his favorite meal, and maybe got him his favorite snack. This year, our budget isn't so tight, so I planned a fun evening at home. I decided to cook something delicious and do a little decorating.
This was the view from the living room into the dining room. I would have loved for the crepe paper to go to the floor, but...we have dogs...and cats...and two ornery baby goats running around!
I would have LOVED to have put slips of paper in the balloons with reasons I loved my husband, and I also would have LOVED to have used helium. There is nothing more awesome than balloons floating in the air. I wasn't going for something fancy, just something festive and fun, hence the cheap plastic table "cloth".
I strung crepe paper from three corners to the ceiling fan, and then draped crepe paper all along the ceiling fan. My husband works night, and didn't get home till about 1 AM hence why it looks so dark!
The table was simple, white dishes, clear votive's and glasses, and silver star confetti. I would have loved to get some other tacky Valentines day decor but there wasn't much to choose from. Nothing fancy to drink, just our favorite sodas.
Here is our dessert, a decadent chocolate mousse cake... reminiscent of Olive Gardens black tie mousse cake. It was delicious, and we really enjoyed it. We don't do any expensive gifts for Valentines day. I made my husband this dinner and dessert, and also bought him two bags of his favorite candies. He got me a beautiful bouquet of flowers (which were on sale because by the time he bought them it was after Valentines!!), some chocolates and some new cheese to try. He did excellent with my gifts!
Did you do anything special for Valentines day?
I don't know about you, but my best thinking happens when I cook alone in the kitchen. Quiet and alone with my thoughts, things tend to come together better and more easily. Tonight, while in the kitchen together whipping up baked ziti for dinner, I started thinking. There's a whole string of thoughts that have been on my mind for quite some time and I just wasn't sure how to make them fit into a blog post. While stirring my sauce it hit me, some women just have their priorities wrong.
Our modern day society tells us so many trivial things are important. Big houses, multiple cars, name brand food and clothing to name a few. Not even going into the desire for technology to be omnipresent. Society is wrong, leading us like a cow to slaughter. It's caused us to tame our husbands, neglect our children, and mock the ideas of homemaking. Where has it gotten us? We are training up a generation that is unintelligent, materialistic, and lazy. We are forsaking the passing down of traditions, and our young women can't bake pies, much less care for a home.
I believe a huge reason this has happened, is because we have forgotten what our priorities are. We've forgotten and lost sight of what is important. Here is an example on how I feel many women view their priorities...
This creates a very unbalanced life, a life in which nothing is where it should be. Children are being shuffled around and put into so many activities they are constantly busy. Husbands are neglected, disrespected, and snapped at. Career is so important it overwhelms and overtakes time and energy that is limited. Church becomes more of an idol and popularity contest than it is about serving the Lord and reaching out to those in need. Lastly, our homes are thrust to the bottom of the pile. An empty, stressed environment that is no longer sacred and inviting. I believe having such priorities sets women up to be unfulfilled, sour, and unhappy. So here is how I think our priorities should look...
God. Jesus said that our greatest commandment above all others was to love the Lord with all your heart, soul and mind. (Matthew 22:35-38) Our relationship with God is the foundation of our life. He is our rock on which we build our lives. We want to be like the wise man and build our lives on the rock, not in the sand where it will be washed away. (Matthew 7:24-27)
Husband. It is so important to always remember your husband as your best friend. Constantly cultivating your marriage, helping him, respecting him is so important. I also believe if you have children this makes a lasting impression on them.
Children. Today's society almost always tries to put children as a priority over our husbands, but that is not how God meant it to be. A strong marriage is one of the best things and examples you could ever give your child.
Home. Today most people scoff even at the idea of homemaking, much less having it as a top priority in their lives. The fact of the matter is making a house a home is more than just paint and furniture. It's about children knowing where there mom is. Knowing when they get home, she'll be there to listen to what happened at school. Husbands will know when they come home from work food will be ready. It's creating a haven, a safe, comfy place for everyone to rest in. It's about making memories, and keeping the peace.
Church. Church is low on this list of priorities which probably makes some women wonder if it's right. I believe that it's in the right place though. Church is a gathering together of believers to grow in Christ. I think all to often church becomes an idol, and women can become too involved.
Whether we like to admit it or not, we all have priorities. The way we live our lives, treat our families, and care for our homes all speak volumes into what we find important. It's never to late to take a stand, and pull our lives back from the rat race they've become. I chose to live simply, love fully, and have no regrets, how about you?
I've been a housewife and homemaker for about 3 years now. Most people who read my blog know my plan wasn't to become a housewife, so I was a little lost at first. I did a lot of things that were really unnecessary, and lacked on a lot of things that were more important! I've recently revamped my daily routine once again, and I thought I may as well share what I've learned. So, here we go, the top 5 tips for a new housewife...
1. Ask your husband what is important to him. This is such a simple thing, that is so important! I would suggest and advise all keepers of the home to do this. Our husbands are all different, they all have expectations on what clean is. Often bloggers say doing x, y, or z is what will make us successful homemakers, when our husbands really care about a, b, and c being done! What my husband wants and prefers done is the backbone of how I run things. My husband personally cares about his work uniforms being clean, dinner to be done, our home to be picked up of clutter, and a generally clean home before the weekend. My list is more detailed, like washing windows, checking baseboards, mopping, dusting, and all other fun stuffs like that.
2. Get your cleaning done as early as you can. This is something I struggle with. I am not a morning person, so hopping out of bed and getting my chores done is not easy. I need some time to wake up and be pleasant. I spent a lot of my early marriage waiting until the latter part of the day to get my cleaning done. This meant I was running around like a chicken with its head cut off before my husband was due to arrive home. It made me flustered and more easily annoyed when my husband got home, and also meant some things were neglected due to lack of time. My goal is to always get the house tidy as soon as I can, and then do a whole house check at the end of the day.
3. Pick up after yourself. Oh boy do I hate this one! It makes a difference though. After the home is clean, any time you do something that makes a mess, don't wait to clean it up. Go ahead and wash the dish, or pick up what you dropped, it just makes things easy for you later. I also encourage this same thing if you have children or a husband. I wish I would have had this mindset ingrained in me as I grew up so it wouldn't be such a chore now! I do not expect my husband to do any housework at all, especially the days he works. However, I do ask him to at least pick up after himself on the weekends.
4. It's OK if you do things differently. As a young, impressionable housewife I really thought I wasn't as good of a housewife if I didn't do what other housewives did. I spent a lot of time on homemaking journals, and schedules that were really useless to me. I am a free spirit, I don't do schedules. I do however do lists, which is an entirely different beast. Make your own rules to keeping house. Find out what works for you and do it.
5. Accept that you will never be done. This is a hard, hard truth of being a housewife and homemaker. Your job will never end, and you will never retire. Just accept it. You will always be needed to mend socks, wash dishes, and do laundry. You will always be needed to make your house feel like home. It seems so exhausting and overwhelming, but really, where else would you rather be? Although you may always be buried under laundry, you'll also be making a house a home which is priceless.
What do you think? If you are an experienced homemaker what are your tips to new homemakers? Share in the comments below!
Have you ever been reading through your bible and read a verse that made you stop and wonder, “Is that me? Am I doing this in my marriage?” You get a little twinge of fear and conviction, and savor the words you read. I know I have. This is the verse I read that really stuck with me.
“It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman and in a wide house.” Proverbs 25:24
That description is so vivid. It would be better for a husband to live on the corner of a roof than to live in a mansion that houses a brawling wife. In case you were wondering the definition of brawling is “a noisy quarrel, squabble, or fight”. Worse of all, this verse is mentioned TWICE in Proverbs, and for good measure there is the following verse as well.
“A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike.” Proverbs 27:15
We all know how annoying the sound of dripping water can be, or any small, repetitive sound. Just think, we may be that kind of annoying to our husbands. Are you being a brawling, contentious wife?
No one out there should answer that with a no by the way! None of us are perfect, and we are all guilty of nagging, and complaining. It is in our nature to be sinful. It would be more unfortunate, in my opinion, if we denied such faults. We make mistakes, it’s ok, we need to apologize and move forward. We, as wives, as Christians, need to step up to the plate and make the conscious decision to be better. If you read those scriptures and thought, “Gee, this is something I need to work on.” Then don’t ignore it, make changes to make it better!
In my marriage I do my very best to be laid back about things. It is a natural personality trait of mine, but it doesn’t always come easy. When I have asked my husband to do something, and he hasn’t done it, it is HARD to hold my tongue. The same applies when my husband makes a mistake, I want to say I told you so, and lecture him, but that is not a way to make him feel respected. Here are a few tips to consider, to keep from being a leaky faucet.
Communicate. This is so, so, so, so, so important. Really, it is. The bible says not to be nagging, not to be quarrelsome, but it doesn’t say you should hold in all the frustration you feel. If there is something causing a problem don’t nag and pick fights, grow up and talk to him about it. Don’t try to be strong, and hard and keep it all in. When you do that you are letting Satan grab hold of your heart. You are letting tiny problems fester and infect your marriage. Keep composure when talking, and if you feel things getting heated, it’s ok to take a mini break.
Gentle Reminders. Send him a text, or write a little note as a reminder. Be loving, funny, and yourself though! Compliment him, tell him a joke, and at the end add a little, P.S. don’t forget the milk! or even more effective, P.S. if you remember to grab milk on the way home I’ll have a batch of fresh, warm cookies waiting for you!
It Doesn't Work. Has anyone actually ever nagged someone and gotten what they wanted? If you nag your husband every time he has the common courtesy to be honest with you, he may stop telling you things. That is not what you want in a marriage.
Do you have any tips to keep from being a Nagging Nancy? Feel free to share in the comments!